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Why I Despise Social Media
Right away, I know that I could tell you many reasons why social media is evil but I think my most impactful statement about why I despise and don’t believe in social media anymore, is that I think it’s negatively affected us way more than impacting us all (humankind, everywhere on the globe) in positive ways.
I see how using social media services are making us more stupid, socially retarded, as well as it’s turning us into serious addicts with impulse control problems. Unknowingly, we get brainwashed with unrealistically high and distorted expectations and it’s just plain giving us a major sense of imbalance.
I heard a great quote recently where someone said “We are so connected nowadays, that we are disconnected!” How utterly true is that statement?! I think it’s right on!
Years ago, when iPhones first came out and were all the rage, I purposefully and intentionally stayed away from them for years. I knew they could turn into a problem for me, plus they were so freaking expensive too. It took awhile for me to warm up to finally buying one.
Flash forward 10+ years and I wish that iPhones and then subsequently social media sites never existed. It became a B-I-G problem for me and for my then, teenage son.
My husband says that I tend to go to a “10” which loosely translated means I automatically look at things with the worst possible reality or outcome as my go to reaction or comment that I make about almost everything. I’ll admit it right now in my life, I am a cynic and am skeptical about a lot of stuff, sadly.
I blame myself, my husband and my current attitude, our lifestyle, the choices we make together and separately with how we spend our time and how we talk to each other. Our immediate reality right now is pretty messed up, sad and full of negativity almost on a daily basis, but I digress!
Sometimes to me it seems like we live in a super violent, negative world. Just watch the news or hop onto your favorite social media application. They are trying to brainwash us and get us thinking in a skewed, slanted way that doesn’t promote positivity. Instead most media outlets promote distrust, negativity and violence.
I say, turn the fucking news off, don’t watch any of it, stay off of any and all social media outlets and filter the information you let in, in every form and from every source.
And if you can, cancel your cable television, don’t watch YouTube on the regular and be very picky about any movie or show you spend time watching on Netflix, Amazon, Roku and all the other entertainment outlets that you enjoy.
I’m also assuming here that you are at least 18 years old, if you are reading this blog because as modern-day adults we have been programmed and desensitized. Companies like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and the lot want to suck you into their world. They want you to get addicted to them and to your devices so they can push their message or agenda to the masses. They are also in the business of making money, don’t forget that! It’s their biggest motivator!
Here’s a great read about being addicted to Facebook: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.livescience.com/49585-facebook-addiction-viewed-brain.html
As an ex-addict myself of wasting years of my life on almost all social media outlets, I completely understand the problems that frequenting the social sites creates. I’ve seen it, lived it and done some BIG things to change things in my life.
Here’s another great article on the subject:
Social media used to have control over me. I let them in, unknowingly like an ugly disease that did an amazing job of masking itself to me. Back then, years ago, I used to think that it was healthy to use Facebook and my “friends” as an outlet like having free therapy, getting feedback and advise. It felt like I needed other people’s approval over my life and the choices that I was making. Fuck that, it’s all wrong!
I had to learn that I need my own approval first and only and if I need help, then I go seek advice from qualified professionals that I trust and pay for their time.
I think it’s important to also say that F.O.M.O. and the grass is always greener in someone else’s life (that’s being portrayed on someone else’s social media account ) is not reality or worth trying to compete against. As is it silly to try to get as many “friends” and “likes” on things you post, stop being so vain, immature and insecure.
My Facebook Account
I have deactivated my personal Facebook account twice. You see, I didn’t learn enough from the first time around, but the second time I deleted everything.
If you were to check my personal Facebook account today, you’d see that I have a very few select group of “Friends.” These are people that I actually truly care about and want to know how they are doing.
I don’t have any posts, updates, check-ins and not many pictures or personal info. I did do that all on purpose. I purged my Facebook account by deleting every single post I have ever written as well as any picture, comment or like that I added. It felt great doing this! I got a sense of my personal security and power back as well.
A great movie to watch sometime that will rock your world is called “The Great Hack.” I highly recommend watching it. It’s on Netflix right now, btw.
Moving forward now, today I only use Facebook for my businesses and don’t like posting anything often on it too. It’s all a waste of my time and energy! I’d rather be walking on the beach or spending time doing something fun, then adding content to an online social media site. Y.O.L.O.
Soon after doing the above, I went ahead and decided to delete my personal Twitter account and other sites that proved to be not worth my time.
I absolutely loved doing it, it felt extremely cleansing and healthy. I’ve never looked back!
My New’s Years Resolution
I set up a massive personal challenge for myself, in the way of setting a New Year’s resolution many full moons ago, ok how about a few years back.
My challenge was to never sign into my Facebook account or use the app on my iPhone. I had found that I was checking the site often throughout the course of a day and recognized that it had become a real problem.
Originally, I set the goal at the one year mark of not logging into Facebook in any way, shape or form from my iPhone. I succeeded with this challenge and loved how it made me feel, so I made it a permanent ban that is still in place today! Yeah me!
Occasionally and what I really mean to say is that I will very rarely sign into Facebook today but do so on my PC. I don’t hang out long or give two shits about checking on friends updates, comments on their page, photos they may have added, etc.
I figure if someone is a real friend to me and someone that I truly care about, we will keep up with each other offline and text message and by occasionally phone calls.
I hope that you will consider doing the same as I have done or at the very least going on social media timeout often. Take a whole week off or a month if you think you can hold out for a whole month. It’s a wonderful learning opportunity and one that you deserve!
Take back control of your mind, your priorities and do what really matters in life, that can’t be done on some stupid social media app. I dare you to! Then please do me a favor and come back here and comment about your experience. I’d love to hear your thoughts and feelings on all of this!