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I know that you’ve heard the saying “Your Life Can Change in an Instant” before, but it means more when it actually happens to you personally.
My life changed in an instant about 2 dozen times in the last 20 years, honestly, like when I gave birth to my son and when I left multiple relationships with men that had domestic violence. I’ve had some super heavy shit to deal with and things that take most people their whole lives to experience and have to go through, like getting on public assistance, filing for bankruptcy, getting divorced, having a loved one get terminal cancer and myself get diagnosed a month later with my own cancer.
This is just the tip of the iceberg too, but I’m not cynical about everything because most of the things that happened to me that changed my life in an instant were from me making bad choices.
My inner critic and judge can be a mean, old, unrelenting bitch sometimes, but I am trying to put her in her place, which is not in my head or anywhere in my life. I’m trying to be more compassionate with myself and talk and treat myself like I would do to a close friend. It’s a daily struggle but one that’s well worth it!
But, I digress!
Thankfully, my cancer was caught early, it was stage 1 Breast cancer and I’ve had surgery, completed 19 rounds of radiation treatment and am on an anti-cancer pill for the next 5 years.
During my whole life-altering fight with cancer, I did 2 amazing tests that looked at my genetics. One test called MammaPrint showed that with my type of cancer the risk of reoccurrence was very low and the kicker for me was learning also that doing chemotherapy wouldn’t make a difference for me (which was HUGE because I didn’t have to do chemo) and the other test showed that I have the nasty BRCA2 gene mutation also. Click here to read more about my cancer fight!
Every bad decision has taken a toll on me in more ways than I can count but on the flip-side every good decision that I’ve made has made me more capable, stronger and wiser.
As I look back at my life and think about both good and bad things that have happened to me, the one constant presence has been myself and my choices.
I believe in free will more than in destiny and feel that the choices that we make in life show up in eventually. Some outcomes may be pleasant and some make you feel like you don’t know if you are going to be able to handle them. On top of this, you can wake up one morning and by the end of that same day, your life can be 180 degrees different from where you were at the start of your day. I hate when this occurs for stuff that is negative and traumatic, shit who wouldn’t?!
To counter this, I now try to make smarter, more thoughtful decisions. Some say I’m not much of a risk-taker anymore and that I’m scared of a lot of stuff and that’s ok because right now I am, BUT the one thing I do have is control over myself and my choices. I may not be able to control the outcome of things but I sure as shit can take calculated risks and try to make good, healthy decisions.
I think a good goal in life to have is to be able to ask yourself this question, “Am I winning at life?” And have your answer to this question be a proud, resounding yes!
If you aren’t satisfied or feel that you are failing at least you are aware of it, try to also own up to it, and the next best choice you should take is to take action to change this. I don’t live in denial anymore. I’ve taken full ownership and responsibility over my life, my choices and where I am at in my life right now, but I wasn’t always like this.
It’s great to take stock over where you are at in life but know that everything in life is temporary so you can’t get too attached to things, people and outcomes. You can just do your best to make the best decisions for you. You know the ones that align with your soul and your true self!
I am there right now, my soul is connected with my true, authentic self and even though I am going through transitions in my life, I am DAMN proud of myself and my decisions of late.
I am controlling what I can control, my decision align with my beliefs and values and I am not too scared of my life changing in an instant anymore because I trust my intuition and my decision-making abilities.
Question: What’s one thing you’ve done in your life recently that is different than what you’ve done in the past (that’s changed your life in a remarkable way) and how is it working for you?